Don’t creep up behind her silently so all she can see is an ominous shadow rise up in front of her.
Don’t lean in close so she can feel your breath on the back of her neck and only catch a glimpse of you in her peripheral vision.
When after several long seconds have past she…
My favourite tactic when this occurs is taken from my dear friend Robyn: Shove any part of the person touching you off your body forcefully, turn around and look them dead in the eyes, and in a firm and loud voice, say no. Do not feel bad. Do not accept it when he says you’re being rude. He is being rude.
I had the chance to use this tactic a few weeks ago while dancing (within 3 feet of my boyfriend, no less). A guy came up behind me and put his arm around me and a friend. I shoved his arm off my shoulder and said no. He wandered off. When another boy came close to try and dance with me, I looked him in the eyes and said no, then turned tail and simply walked away, no explanation needed.
Boys like this - yes boys, not men - do not deserve your kindness. Never forget that. Be firm, be strong, and know that you have backup. Your friends know the drill. Make enough of a fuss and the people around you will know the drill. The only way to stop these boys from their incessant immaturity is to stop responding to it with any kind of niceness. They are entitled assholes to whom nobody has ever said the word no.
You can be the first.